And Down The Rabbit Hole We Go. Mixed Race Relationships
Why Is it that mixed race relationships draw such looks?
Its all about the love right?
well obviously not.
so that would beg the question why is it the way that it is.
well purely from my standpoint.
1) I think it violates some people concept of normal dating patterns. We tend to automatically assume everyone will date and pursue relationships with in their own ethnic groups. sorta like a tradition thing
2) if a black man is involved; The So Called Black Man Shortage. Black Women who wish date black men have less to chose from because black men are much more likely to date other ethnicities, less black men are in their peer groups as far as education and job placement etc., and then issues of attraction.
3) I also think that some ethnic groups people are more accepting of such as wht/asian. Maybe its a visual contrast thing
4) People taking the mixed race relationship as a indictment and accusation of the inadequacy of that person's ethnicity.
5) Issues of Entitlement. I think some groups feel they are entitled to their men and vice versa.
Ultimately, Love is an emotion experienced by the individual. Being so concerned about what the next person is doing you wont be able to see the tree for the forest. Nah Mean?
2 comments:
Ooooh so much to say! Okay, by the numbers first...
1) I can agree with this
2) Add the shortage of black men available to black women (i'm attributing shortage to prison, substance abuse, homosexuality, murder and black men who just don't want sistas) to the fact that black women are not as likely to date outside of the race, and yeah, that is going to draw fire from some.
3) Hmm, never thought about this, but I guess it makes since. I hardly give black/hispanic, white/hispanic or white/asian couples a second glance.
4) This can't be assumed without knowing the people involved in the relationship, but considering I've heard/read a lot of things about why people of certain ethnicities would never date their own, it's definitely irksome.
5) True. It's like calling shotgun and someone hoppin their butt in the front seat anyway. Not cool. lol
Another thing is the history of race relations, primarily in America but around the world as well. Throughout history, whenever people of European descent conquered or "discovered" a new land or territory, they regarded the natives to that area as barbarians and sub-human. So I can definitely understand why some would see interracial dating as a betrayal when the "other" is white. It my not even be a conscious thing, but something deep in the psyche.
However, at the end of the day, if someone has truly found love, then what business of mine if the other person is black, white, brown, yellow, or blue? they like it, I love it.
lol.. you two already know..
In my opinion love should be blind to color.. I'm very much in favor of interracial dating but at the same time I have no misgivings about somebody who doesn't.
It's all about PREFERENCE. What my preference is may not be someone else's and that can be applied to everything when it comes to dating: RACE:AGE:RELIGION:SEXUAL ORIENTATION.
I feel the sting of people who don't approve of my preference and it really boogles my mind. I certaintly don't try and force someone to date me if I'm not THEIR preference.
I can't help but feel that sometimes women (which I think we all agree are jealous creatures by nature) really let this bring out darker part of their nature and in turn show a side that turns off men who other wise would have had them in their dating preference pool.
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